I have written about this time and time again. Bottom line? If it feels good, shoot it. Best firearms advice I could ever give.
Does it feel good in your hand? Can you handle the recoil? Does the gun appeal to you aesthetically?
There is nothing I can't fire, but there are some weapons it pains me to do so. The high crack! that certain low caliber, short barreled pistols put out, disturbs me. Certain grip styles, the Smith & Wesson 'saw handle' type, hurt me in the higher calibers. I can fire a .444 Marlin, or a 45-70, with no ill effect. Double O Buck from a twelve gauge rocks my world, rattles my cage, etc. I only fire it for familiarization. The rest of the time I practice with birdshot.
Suggestions? Yeah...ladies? Try the Browning BDA in .380. See how it fits. Your hand. Do you have strong hands? Try a Colt .45 ACP Officers Model. The wife shoots my .45 using full-house loads, and begs for more bullets. And at 20 feet, she puts all the rounds into a 2" circle drawn on a paper plate. Eat that, guys.
And she fires my .44 Magnum with 300 grain carbine loads in it like she would handle an ejaculating penis.
Like most women I've shot with, she does not care for shoulder fired weapons, above .22 caliber. Unless you had brothers, you are not used to taking a beating. But she fires my shorty Winchester .44 AE carbine loaded with .44 Specials, just fine.
Wanna talk about a nasty crack? Fire a 9mm compact pistol (don't get me started on .40 compacts...just fine if you want to set your attacker on fire with the muzzle blast. And be deaf). Damn, you want to talk about a vagino-ear infection? It will fuck you in the ear, and send you down the road to Hearingaidville. Anybody who is both into firearms, and a musician can tell you what I mean.
It is a matter of tone. A loud boom! is one thing, a sharp crack! is quite another. It is a matter of pitch.
So, potential gun buyers, consider where you live. Your choice of gun and ammo just might be dictated by how many neighbours you might kill with an errant shot. I keep my .44 loaded with the first two rounds being snakeshot. Tiny BB's. You will cough up a lung.
Now, if I lived in the boonies, I'd shoot some asshole with a 45-70 just to see how many times I could make him (or her) flip over. Like Cirque de Solei.
Again, ladies, it is like a purse. If you don't like the gun, you won't carry it. And don't listen (too close) to the guys working at the store. I mean, gun-shop. Opinions are like assholes...
Everybody is one.